So. It seems
everyone some are upset with me about the anonymous blog survey posts. I have mixed feelings about that, which I don’t think I’ll go into. Instead, I’ll say that I promised I would post all the responses… and I did regardless of how I felt about some of them. Like almost everything in life, I don’t think that little blogging series was wholly good or bad.
This is not a post about that though, even though it was spurred by some of the responses I got.
Since I’ve started this blog, I’ve been met with all kinds of kindness. There are new real life friends from blogging, people I talk to online on a daily basis about our horsey hopes and fears and of course thousands of comments from all of you lovely readers. I can’t begin to describe how much your comments have lifted my spirits and helped me through rough times or cloudy days.
Then, there’s the flip side. I’ve been ripped apart on Chronicle in the past over posts on this blog. I’ve cruised up to fellow bloggers sites that I enjoy, and found negative content seemingly directed at me in-between the lines. Not often, but occasionally I get a snarky comment here about how I am failing at something in life or in my blog. They are most certainly outweighed by the positives, but these things I mention still linger out there.
I know I’m not alone with this. Whenever we blog, we open up the world to less than kindness… but what do we do about it?
Usually if I identify a relationship that isn’t giving me much value in life and does more dragging me down than lifting me up, I respond by cutting it. No drama. No fighting. Just back away slowly. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Do not engage.
Still, though I try to maintain a degree of professionalism around here I’m still quite human. Deep down, I want everyone to like me and I don’t want to create any enemies. I believe that the conversation element of comments is an essential part of blogging, and I’d rather quit blogging than disable comments. I know some write just for writing’s sake, but that’s not me.
I guess this is just to say (and I know I’ve said it before) that the internet provides a mask of anonymity. Sometimes it’s through a 100% anonymous survey, and sometimes it’s through a blog that we feel we can rant on because we won’t really ever meet most of these people in real life.
We can choose to sit behind our masks and write whatever we want, or we could choose to kill the internet with kindness. Do we really need to write an entire blog post directed at someone because we don’t like how they have too many bits/have too many bridles/ride in purple t-shirts/inject their horse/don’t inject their horse/ride eventing/ride hunters/ride a water buffalo?
I ask myself the same question I propose to y’all, because I don’t think I’m above it all here. I’ve certainly been guilty of being a bit too heavy handed with my opinion.
There will always be reasons, need and opportunity to be negative on our blogs. I think that’s natural, because life isn’t all positive. I’m not saying we should all start lying to ourselves, but there is a degree of kindness that I believe could be implemented more often.
At the end of the day, I am much more interested in boosting y’all up than putting you down. I’ll try to work on that more in the future.