This is going to be one of those topics where the comments are more interesting than the post, at least that’s my prediction.
Carly from Poor Woman Showing wrote a post this week that made me do a fist pump. If you haven’t read it, you should. Basically it’s a “don’t tell me how to live my life yo” post, which I can certainly appreciate as a person who has been told how to live her life through blog feedback.
However, there’s another side of things. Not 48 hours later I found myself not really holding my tongue in a comment on a different blog. I don’t regret it either. Blogs are vehicles of communication on the internet, and sometimes I reach a point where I can’t not communicate anymore. Not saying that’s the right thing or the proper thing to do, but just my personal reaction.
My question today for y’all is two fold.
One, if you are a blogger what do you want to see in your comments? If you write about a problem with training, do you genuinely want to read people say “Hey maybe try shortening your stirrups?” Do you want your comments to be 100% “You look great!” or do you want feedback from people? I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer here, to be clear.
Two, if you are a reader of a blog… when do you choose to speak up? Personally, if a blogger asks reader opinions on something I typically try to give one. For training posts I normally hold my tongue even if I don’t agree with what’s happening. Let’s be honest, most training post are super awesome and I’m mostly jealous at the progress and detailed lesson! This is not a common problem for me. If I don’t like what I see, I try to keep the “not my horse, not my problem” philosophy.
However, sometimes I fail at that. If I see consistent problems that are making the writer upset or if someone’s safety seems to be in question, I generally speak up. Not saying that’s the right answer or what other people should do, but curious what others think.
In the internet and in life, I try to go by the Thumper mentality. If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nutin’ at all.
That being said, a well meaning comment to try to help a writer solve a large problem isn’t mean by its nature. It can hurt the writer’s feelings though.
Chime in readers! What do you think on this subject?