My learning experience horse hauled off this morning to a new home in Colorado. He’ll be loved by really nice people and continue his path towards the hunter/jumper ring under a knowledgeable trainer. Although I’ve never bought or sold a horse sight unseen before, I feel good about his new family. I think he will be loved and cared for, which is as much as any horse can want out of life.
I can’t really adequately express how relieved I am to have Roman sold. He’s possibly the sweetest horse I’ll ever own – one that wants to constantly kissed and cuddled and hugged. I’ll miss that big smushy nose, but not the financial and time stress that owning two horses has put on me.
Roman left behind a huge hole in my bank account, but that’s my fault – not his. He taught me that completely stretching my pennies for horses isn’t a lifestyle I can really get behind these days. Maybe one day my financial situation will be different, and I’ll be able to afford two. Until then, I’ll become a one horse owner because of what I learned from Roman.
From Roman I learned that I don’t have the confidence for a green bean unless I can ride my bombproof kickass jumper on a regular basis. Without Simon’s steady companionship to remind me that I actually do know how to ride, I wasn’t able to excel with Roman.
I also learned not to buy a horse unless I’m 100% over the moon excited (in a can’t sleep kind of way) about it. This is no critique on Roman, but when I bought him I had a “Okay cool, I finally found a suitable horse that vets” feeling instead of a “I CAN’T WAIT TO PLAY WITH MY NEW HORSE” vibe. Looking back, I never got over not being able to purchase my dream horse baby brontosaurus. In Roman’s early weeks, I think I spent more time than I should have wishing he were my dream quarter horse hunter. It set him up for early failure in my eyes, which wasn’t fair to him.
Roman didn’t turn out to be the horse I wanted him to, but he is still a good egg. My trainer and I (let’s be real, mostly my trainer) fixed a lot with his flatwork and improved the creature we originally took home. I wish we could have improved him with much less of a financial hit to me, but hey – not all learning experiences are cheap. If the worst thing I did in the year after losing Tim was lose money on a horse, well I think I did okay.
Today the Roman chapter is over for me. I’m not sad. I’ll be curious to look him up on social media in a few years, and hope he turns into the quality show horse that I know he can be.