I’m not usually a jealous person in my real life. I like nice things and big houses, but I don’t usually covet them. For example, I’m swooning over the Ralph Lauren leather purses with the Baucher bit detail (very much out of my budget right now), but when I see someone carrying around a Ralph Lauren equestrian purse it’s not like I want to jump them. I don’t that oh so beautiful leather bag against them.
With horses though, I get super jealous.
When I read someone’s blog with multiple sound, lovely, talented horses that get to show all the time and win pretty ribbons… I get a little jealous. No, I don’t hold it against them but I do have major man, I wish that was my situation moments.
In the real world, now that I’ve moved to the new barn I realize that I’m starting to feel this way a bit. We have a wide range of riders, and I’m probably somewhere in the low middle in terms of horse talent, budget and experience. I find myself looking at the upper tier and their fancy horses, beautiful equitation, fit and trim bodies from tons of riding, and large (larger than mine) show budgets… and I get a little jealous.
Frankly, I need to quit that shit. People may think envy is harmless, but it’s not when it comes to horses – here’s why.
I ride like crap when I’m feeling this way. Last night my horse was fresh and d i s t r a c t e d. I had already planned to do an evening of trot sets (which is a good exercise for distracto Simon), but the hard hard hard grass ring made me decide to take an evening doing flat work and poles in the dirt ring.
One of the riders I really admire was riding in the dirt ring with me, and instead of sticking with my plan of mostly just exercising my fresh horse… I saw her horse hacking around beautifully and decided that now was when we needed to work on him going around in a frame. Right now. Yup. He can do it too. I have a fancy horse too. See?! See?!?!
Let me tell you, she did not see because it did not happen. Overall I gave my horse a poor ride. It was because I was jealous, and it wasn’t fair to him.
Another it’s not okay to be jealous of other riders is you never know their situation. I’ve known people who got to go to tons and tons of fancy shows because a parent died and left them money. Would I trade a parent for horse shows? Never. That fancy horse I’m watching? He could be a crazy bucker or have soundness issues. The thin and trim equitation rider I wish I could be? Maybe she started off heavy like me. You just never know.
So tonight when I ride I’m going to try and be a bit more grateful for what I do have. My horse is sound right now, and he is a good soul. I have budget for training and lessons and some small shows. I get to board at a nice barn. I get to have a horse.
I bet that some people come to this blog and are jealous. It’s all relative. Time to put on my thankful cap and give my dear sweet pony a good ride tonight!