I’m dealing with a lot of mental shenanigans with my riding lately. The good news is, I feel like I’m winning the war. The bad news… well, there are lots of battles in a war!
Due to a scheduling snafu (if you call someone changing show dates after they publish the ‘official’ list on their FB page a snafu… grrr), I’m showing much earlier than I planned to in May. I’m also going to have to show straight in the 2’6″ – 2’9″ instead of doing my beloved slow, step up classes.
If I can’t handle this mentally, the plan is to go show anyway and just do the 2’6″ hunters in the indoor ring. At some point, I’ve got to get out there and start breaking down these mental barriers.
Anyway, what I wanted to post about today was giving yourself credit. Eventing in Color recommended a diet book to me, The Beck Diet Solution, months ago and I’m just starting to read it. You may think, “But what does this have to do with riding?”
Well that’s a part early on in the book where the author tells you to start giving yourself credit for things in order to not become defeated by changing your habits. I realized I a) need to do this, b) never do this and c) this can apply to riding as well as dieting.
Here’s an example:
A course starts off okay, but I’m too slow so I add really badly into the second jump and it’s fugly. Instead of saying the entire thing is horrible and feeling defeated, I need to give myself credit for something. I can say “Well I was too slow coming into that oxer, but at least we were going very straight over it.”
That way your brain is focusing more on the positive, instead of being ‘defeated’ by the negative.
In life, I feel defeated a lot.
Though sometimes I ride like a total ass hat and put my horse into bad spots, I am able to do a lot of things right. Not saying it’s more right than wrong, but sometimes you just have to focus on the right a little bit more!
What do you think – could you stand to give yourself more ‘credit’ in your riding?