Pick Yourself Up
I’m calling “the slumps” over. This is due to two reasons.
One, I had an amazing private lesson last Thursday night. It was one of those lessons where the individual attention leads to a big “Ah-ha” moment, which means that the lesson will last far, far long than the half hour I paid for. Basically, I learned that I was both over and under communicating.
See, we’ve pushed our flatwork to the next level recently. Lots of trot work in a frame, lateral movements at the walk and trot as well as improving our transitions. While this has really helped a lot, the added difficulty has made Simon very anxious at times. I got a private flat lesson to address that.
Turns out, when I’m asking for laterals and upward transitions I’m using way too much lower leg. While he needed a lot of lower leg when we first started doing lateral movements, now he is not so green at them… yet my leg is “screaming” at him to move over. This is making him worried.
Also, when I ask for an upward transition (especially at the trot) I’m pushing too much. So he starts trotting with this big, bright trot and I’m immediately “Meh too much” with my hands, which in turns make him go “BUT YOU SAID GO AND NOW I’M BAD OH GOD I’M A BAD BAD HORSE.” And then he gets upset.
With down transitions, I wasn’t using enough upper leg. Turns out, I need to squeeze the shit out of him with my upper leg and sit up super straight with my core. I know that’s probably a “duh” moment for a lot of you, but I was only doing about 25% of what I needed to. Once I upped the seat control, he immediately responded.
Here’s the second reason I’m done with the slumps – I’m over second guessing myself. The way I see it, I can do one of two things with my current issues over bigger jumps and more technical jumper courses. I can either go back to the hunters where everything is comfortable, and be a low ribbon 2’6″ hunter with no changes for the rest of my life… or I can accept that I’m a work in progress and keep trying.
For a while, our mistakes are going to be epic. I’m pushing myself more than ever before, and I’m not always going to be super successful. Honestly, I’ve never been a naturally good rider. I’ve worked really hard to get where I am now, so it makes since that I need to work even harder to continue to improve. I just have to keep giving my horse the best ride possible, and when I inevitably make mistakes… forgive myself and reward him best I can for being a good boy.
Because he’s a really, really good boy.
31 thoughts on “Pick Yourself Up”
Great perspective. Ride on!
I love those “ah-ha!” moments!
🙂 That’s what I like to hear. Glad you’re back.
Good to hear!
Love this attitude! Get ti!
That’s a great way of looking at things!
Whoop! Whoop! You go girl.
Yay!!! Goodbye slumpville!
Adios pout town!
Sounds like some great learning moments in that lesson!!
Great post! I have some similar struggles.
Epiphany lessons are the best!! Go Lauren!
Awesome! Sounds like you got the “In-between Slumps.” I get a bad case of that when I’m in-between two training levels. In other words, I’ve mastered something easy, and now have to go back to being terrible at something until I’ve mastered it. It’s a blow, and every time it happens I feel like I can’t ride. But, I CAN ride. It just feels like I can’t because I’m working on making myself even better, and what I used to think was good is now what I’m considering just “okay.”
It’s a change of perspective, not a change of ability. Sometimes it helps to take a step back and go “Holy crap. I’m working on something I didn’t think I would be good enough/brave enough/awesome enough to get to. But here I am! How cool!” Then, it’s back to the hard work of getting comfortable and better at the new stuff.
That’s exactly what it feels like. What used to feel AWESOME is now just “okay” and everything else seems a bit out of my grasp at the moment.
“or I can accept that I’m a work in progress and keep trying.”
Yay for being out of the slumps!
And I think you mean ‘sense’ not ‘since’ in your last paragraph. Sory, I couldn’t help not correcting that.
Congrats on putting an end to the slumps! One great ride can change everything.
I’m glad you had some “Aha” moments and it gave you a new goal and a clearer plan. Sometimes defining or re-defining what we are working towards and why is all we need.
Love this post, please remind me of it next time in get down on myself!
I think I just had one of those epiphanies yesterday. Today, I will see if it works 😉
Yay for aha moments!! Great job in recognizing it too!
Great attitude. Keep at and rock on!
Good for you! You have a great attitude and that’s awesome. Glad you had a great lesson!
I love the picture of him beneath the tree! Cute boy! And it’s amazing to me how riding has so many nuances. People ask me (my dad usually) why I still take lessons. How great you figured out what’s best for upper and lower leg to get results! You go girl and gelding!
So glad you had a great lesson. And I’m REALLY glad to read that last paragraph 😀
Sounds like those were all really great realizations. I am all for work hard and gain just a tiny bit of improvement. If I didn’t work hard, I’d go backwards! 🙂
It’s definitely normal to goof and struggle when you move up. But if it wasn’t hard then it wouldn’t make for a very good goal! It will be so much more satisfying as everything clicks into place because you guys are working so hard for it. And really, you guys have looked pretty great and handled the new challenges pretty well in my opinion.
good for you! It’s hard when we step out of our comfort zone
love your last two paragraphs – they definitely resonate in a big way. sounds like an awesome lesson too. good luck putting it all together and saying so long to slumpsville!!!
love the way that you are thinking! i think i need to take n some of your positive attitude! i can’t wait to see and watch your journey 😀
Glad you’re on the upswing!