I’ve had babies on the brain lately, but not like you may be thinking.
No, I don’t want a baby horse. I’m thinking about human babies, but I don’t really want one of those either.
In my personal life, my world has been a bit baby saturated as many women in their 30’s experience. Of course my Facebook feed is covered in baby photos vs college photos now, but closer to home my best friend had a daughter last fall and my younger brother is expecting his first child this summer. I’m excited for them and am happily doing DIY baby presents and having grand plans of introducing these future horse girls to their first pony ride. The truth of the matter is that I honestly do like kids!
I just don’t think I want my own.
To me, it seems like there are three kinds of women in the world (forgive me for over simplifying… I’m about to do so). Women who can’t imagine life without a family. Women who can’t imagine life with a family… and the women in-between. I’m probably a mix of in-between and oh hell no – depending on the day.
Recently I read this article from Horse Nation about their new series on pregnancy/riding. The author expresses that she waited to decide to have a child until her “heart wanted it”, which I think is a good phrase. Right now (and maybe forever) my heart does not want this.
However, I wonder how much horses factor in to my decisions. I’d be curious of some non-existence census data that would say how many horse women of a certain age have kids. Are women who ride less likely to want a family? More likely? The same?
From my perspective, it seems like less likely… but that may be entirely skewed by the fact that me and my peers are mid-child bearing age instead of on the other side of it. It’s no secret that having the time and resources for horse + child makes the situation impossible for many. Even in the best circumstances, it has to be difficult.
If I was one of those women who couldn’t imagine living my life without being a mother, I’d probably sacrifice the horses with the “I’ll do this again when I’m older” mentality. Instead, I’m a woman who can’t imagine living my life without a dog in the house. I much prefer them to babies.
Since there’s no census data out there, respond in the comments if you care to answer. I understand this is a very personal decision that a lot of people don’t want to talk about, and that’s fine. I’m merely curious if other women feel like me… are horses the thing that nudge me towards the side of non-motherhood?